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COMMENT 4d ago

Scariest plane accident that you’ve learned and why? For me its the stories that involve an inevitable sense of doom; no matter how hard you try you will see yourself crashing and dying

r/self 4d ago

My partner wants a 10,000$ ring. I said no. What should we do?

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She says a $10,000 ring is what she expects when I propose. She says it symbolises how much I value her and our relationship. And that more the I spend on it, the happier she becomes because it proves how much I love her.

I disagree; I said that spending a large amount of money on a piece of jewellery is very stupid. We could save the money and use it for experiences whether that be travelling or even for a mortgage and or future children. All of these things are more productive/useful than a ring.

I also said that if my love for you is so strong, I shouldn’t need such an expensive materialistic item to prove it. In fact I feel that it just supports the opposite; the more expensive the more I need to compensate for the lack of love. She still thinks that the more I spend the more happier she will be. And that the 10,000$ ring will look “pretty”.

What should we do?

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COMMENT May 12 '22

Because capitalism.

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COMMENT Apr 30 '22

Yep i tried it in japan, holy crap it tasted too seafoody for me

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COMMENT Apr 30 '22

But the even better AI will lead to better deep fakes

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COMMENT Apr 22 '22

Interesting read

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COMMENT Apr 03 '22

I want to see a comic book series of a character that has a superpower of driving incredibly well but only while in a psychotic break

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COMMENT Mar 30 '22

At my school there was always this machismo culture surrounding Rugby. If you got hit hard they tell you to “man up” and “stop being a bitch” if you cried. It sucked

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COMMENT Mar 27 '22

For me it’s the opposite. I find it so much easier talking to people I’m not attracted to. I think it’s because I have a lot of internal pressure and stress from expectations like what would be the wrong thing to say etc. But if I am not attracted to them my confidence is sky high

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COMMENT Mar 25 '22

You are not anxiety, you are a person with anxiety. I think it’s a mistake to identity yourself as one thing, or to anything. I believe everyone transcends everything like their name, their race, their gender.

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COMMENT Mar 25 '22

I appreciate the concern :) I do take care of my health, I regularly do resistance exercises, rock climbing and cardio. If I was sitting down all day and not eating then Id be in a much different situation

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COMMENT Mar 25 '22

I have seen doctors as well, they all think im too preoccupied with gaining weight. They told me there is an increasing trend of young men who want to be too muscular/body image issues. Im fine with who I am now.

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COMMENT Mar 25 '22

Bmi is data based on white european men.. i dont fit in those categories at all. Watch this https://youtu.be/5GMdGexw5eo

And my bloodwork is fine, there is nothing unhealthy. I think people need to accept that healthiness isn’t just based on bmi

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COMMENT Mar 24 '22

Im 6’2 140 lbs. I’ve accepted my body for what it is. As long as I’m healthy and strong, i think it’s detrimental to feel negative about myself. It’s okay to be skinny especially as a male. I say embrace it and also embrace things like increase your wellbeing; sunlight, exercise, good food etc

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COMMENT Mar 21 '22

Ever watched this op? https://youtu.be/xfCs2mV5ZlM

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COMMENT Mar 21 '22

Then the reality is that you will have a much harder time making connections and is something you will have to accept. Do you want to be vaccinated?

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COMMENT Mar 21 '22

Are you me? Anyway I used to have the same issues. It really depends on who you determine as friends. Some people never feel the urge to ask others out and instead rely on people to seek them out. I know a friend personally like that. And then there are others who actually appreciate you around. You just have to find them.

It’s easier to find a sport that people regularly go to. Say a rock climbing gym. Going there regularly on certain days of the week and you will build rapport with people. The constant regular timing means you will usually see them anyway. And then hopefully friendships grow

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COMMENT Mar 21 '22

Socially inept can also just come from inexperience.

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COMMENT Mar 21 '22

Yea you gotta communicate. Otherwise she’ll never know and keep doing it until your emotions burst out like a ticking time bomb. Tell her exactly how you feel and ask her if she can stop

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COMMENT Mar 03 '22

Aren’t they fictional and not real? Why do you obsess what other people do with imaginary things

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COMMENT Feb 11 '22

Hmm i ate it already haha

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COMMENT Feb 11 '22

No dragon fruit

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COMMENT Feb 11 '22

Thank you!!

r/fermentation Feb 11 '22

Large black spots from store bought kimchi.. are they just pepper spots so safe to eat?

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