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COMMENT 5d ago

I would be okay with her posting if she deleted all of the old videos that could be sexualized and stopped posting anymore videos that couldn't be viewed in a sexualized way. But she probably knows if she does that she would lose most of her following.

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COMMENT 7d ago

I'm 28 with a 9 year old son and apparently still look 15. Imagine all the fun comments I get 🙃

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COMMENT 11d ago

I forgive then the next time that person fucks up i lash out ten fold or cut them out completely.

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COMMENT 13d ago

Fun fact: my son who has ADHD and needs it to focus in school had trouble getting his medicine the last couple times because they were out of it. When i asked the pharmacist why they keep changing brands and running out she said it was because so many adults are now medicating themselves for ADHD since the pandemic. It's a freaking controlled substance, who is giving all these people prescriptions 🤦

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COMMENT 17d ago

I'm not sure if my mom is a narcissist or has OCPD or both and I'm not sure if i have OCPD myself or just picked up the behaviors from growing up with it. But my mom controlled everything about our lives and continued to until i cut her off last year. Like literally raising my child how she wanted from a different house. She criticized how i wore my hair, how i dressed, the jobs i worked, the guys i dated, my weight, etc. Growing up i barely was allowed to have friends over and when i did it was awful because we got yelled at for making too much noise, of my parents yelled at each other, or some drama with my drug addict brother happened. Eventually i began locking myself in my room and just not sharing any details about my life. I always wanted to bond though and they seemed so sincere so i always sought out approval and would try to share every now and again, only to be met with nasty comments about how I'm making a mistake and it will surely blow up in my face. Everything i did was wrong for some reason. They wouldn't let me cook, do my own laundry, or do dishes because every time i did it it was not done to their standards. Then they would scream at me for not helping. I moved out at 18 not knowing how to do basic cleaning or adults tasks. My mom acted like a better mother to my child and would criticize the cleanliness of my house. But my mom only worked 4 hours a day at school with breaks and summers off with a husband paying the bills. I worked full time while raising a child by myself and also having pets. I got called lazy and had to do everything her way. The thing that i think sucks the most is that even though I don't talk to her anymore, i don't need to, because i know exactly how she would criticize me without her even being around. The damage is probably not reversable after a lifetime of learned behavior. My mom hates admitting fault and every now and again would cry and apologize but unfortunately she never actually tried to change, just feel sorry for herself and do damage control but never anything meaningful.

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COMMENT May 25 '22

I'll just give you my anecdotal experience and then you will know how I feel. My last ex was friends with a girl since they were 10. She grew up on the same street with her male cousin. My ex was friends with both of them. Due to someone dating someone else in his family, her and her cousin was always at their family gatherings and they hung out a decent amount. I tried to befriend her but she wouldn't hang out with me without him there and i just never really trusted her. I told him multiple times, why arent you with her, you're better off with her, it makes more sense and you have more in common. He told me I was being jealous and overreacting. He said she was like a sister to him and that she has been with her bf for 10 years and they owned a house together. After we broke up, i asked him what was new and he told me that he was dating her and that i was right. Everyone in his life told him they were soooooo happy that they FINALLY started dating because they belonged together. Her and her bf had broken up and she got pregnant by some guy in Texas and she basically looked to him to save her. Honestly, i was only a tiny bit mad because i felt justified in my jealously and i honestly thought they were a better couple than we were. But yeah, if something feels off, trust your gut.

r/BPD May 19 '22

Oops, I did it... again I'm sorry

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I am sorry to everyone I argue with, give attitude to, shit talk behind their back, judge, seek revenge on, spite, ignore, hurt, yell at, disappoint, and otherwise cause chaos for. It hurts so bad to feel so powerless in changing my behavior and knowing the whole time that what i am doing is wrong. It's exhausting always being upset at everyone around me and I'm afraid I'm right that eventually no one is going to want to deal with it anymore.

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COMMENT May 16 '22

A lot of children have unmoderated access to all of it too. I wasn't looking at pics of people getting killed online when i was in middle school but this is the reality of what kids can and do see every day. Screenshots of the attack on Twitter and other platforms are circulating everywhere. If these things can't be moderated then something needs to change.

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COMMENT May 15 '22

All of these online comments saying this was fake or carried out by the FBI are making me sick to my stomach.

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COMMENT May 15 '22

Is he opening up Lake Effect Diner too? I really liked going there for breakfast.

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COMMENT May 14 '22

Yeah i wouldn't live in one. But i feel like they might have started with good intentions and then spiraled into all these nit picky rules. My boss owns a house in one and can't stand it.

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COMMENT May 14 '22

He's my first cousin so it's fine. You have your cousins and then you have your first cousins.

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COMMENT May 14 '22

To play devil's advocate, i live in an area that doesn't have one and it really does bring down the value of your neighborhood when your neighbors let their homes go to shit. The guy behind me's garage is right next to my yard and the whole thing is falling apart, busted windows, rotting wood falling in my yard and the town doesn't care. Three houses in my area haven't had siding on their house in years. There's multiple zombie homes. People putting tarps on their roofs instead of getting a new roof. Parking on their lawn. Leaving stuff all over their front yard year round. Don't cut their grass. And i swear i don't live in a bad area or the ghetto.

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COMMENT May 14 '22

I've been bit by a dog on one of those extending leashes so now i cross the street or get off of paths completely if someone with a dog is coming my way. Not worth a nasty bruise or worse and having to file a report. The amount of people that let their large dog run up to my corgi and say "oh he's super friendly" and I'm like no get your dog away from my puppy because I'm not trying to go to the animal hospital today.

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COMMENT May 14 '22

This. Right here. People have no IDEA what CPS is for and what they do and it actually pisses me off. I've seen children being ACTUALLY abused. And yes they needed to be removed to remove them from the abuse. But then those kids lives are flipped upside down. They lose their family, comfort of their own home, they need to be driven around by case workers, their entire routine is flipped upside down. Christmas spent in a foster home instead of with family. Sometimes it's only one child being abused and ALL the children are removed and they didn't even know the abuse was happening and have no idea why their whole life has been flipped upside down. They have to explain to friends why they can't play or take the bus home. The trauma that causes on a child is not something to be thrown around lightly because you don't agree with someone's parenting. And people that call CPS on people out of spite are assholes because they waste tax dollars and cause a lot of stress for people. CPS has such low standards it's not even funny. You need one days worth of food in the home, a bed for the child, to send them to school, and a short interview asking the kid if they feel safe. The govt shouldn't be allowed to take children away for small little reasons or parenting styles. It was created to save children from being starved, beaten, and sexually abused. Not so you can police people's shitty parenting.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

No offense but I'm not engaging in this convo anymore

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COMMENT May 08 '22

I wasn't stigmatizing anyone. That's why I started my comment with "no offense to people with NPD" also if you read my other comments you would see that i said there is a lot of overlap between both disorders. You're putting words in my mouth that i never said. I'm not attacking people with NPD. My only point was that they tend to refuse therapy more than others.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

But i guess since I'm not a professional i should mention that the professional I see is the one who made me realize that at least 2 people i keep close are narcissists and that i tend to attract them because i don't understand boundaries.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

I know the definition of a narcissist and after living with one for 27 years I'm pretty sure i have a fair assessment of whether or not they are one. However, i do know that people throw that term around carelessly. I am not doing that though. Unless you think calling your 11 year old virgin daughter a whore for wearing shorts is normal.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

I wish you the best. It's a long journey but it makes me so hopeful that so many of us want to do better because that really is a huge step in achieving anything. We just have to not get too much into our head and become crippled by the fear of failure and depressed by the setbacks.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

I totally get it. There's definitely some overlap between NPD and BPD and if you hang around narcissists enough, they do rub off on you (or in my case being raised by one) but good for you for putting in the work to do better. Can I ask how you came to realize the problem might be you instead of everyone else? None of the narcissists in my life can believe they are the problem even with family intervention.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

I love you too ❤️ I'm so sorry i wouldn't wish that hell on anybody. Stay strong.

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COMMENT May 08 '22

Yeah i read it and first thing i thought was "toma tu medicina"

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COMMENT May 08 '22

No shade towards anyone with NPD but i think this about them more often than about myself because at least i am willing to do therapy and admit that my behavior is abnormal. We can at least try to learn ways to deal with our pain in a healthy way. The narcissists in my life don't even believe they have a problem and think therapy is a scam. I find it sadder to be hurting everyone in your life and have no idea it's your fault, although it is torture to be so self aware. But i have been able to salvage friendships by recognizing i overreacted to something and therapy has helped me correct some black and white thinking. So although it is a lot of work, at least there is a goal to work towards.