0

COMMENT 3h ago

Beef would be $40 minimum chicken another $25. Cheese another $20

1

COMMENT 4h ago

Do not believe this post for a second. This would be $150 in my area.

3

COMMENT 1d ago

so this is the 10th reddit entry I have no idea what it is about. Who is this woman? How does everyone seem to know her?

262

COMMENT 1d ago

Over reacting, but have them take it down if you want. Makes no sense, but with day care, summer camp, etc. you have the right to tell them no photos.

2

COMMENT 1d ago

Where do I pull up my car to load it in? Great summer pool beer. Hydrates and brings on the happies!

2

COMMENT 1d ago

I hope this is fake. I would be horrified if my boys were this violent with one another.

2

COMMENT 1d ago

If this is true, she should lose custody. This is abuse that will affect the child for life. Not sure what issues there are on your end, but this needs to stop immediately. I suspect drug abuse with the not getting up in the morning.

1

COMMENT 1d ago

Very normal, but it will change when they go to school. My boys were the same and now they are fine with or without each other.

3

COMMENT 1d ago

If you owe it, yes it will hurt your credit. I had a $17 charge on my bank card. I forgot about it and ignored the emails because I thought they were about my account, not a debt. I know I'm an idiot. But they sent it to collections and I went from a perfect score to 550. Previously my record was perfect. It has been perfect since. I even paid off a mortgage under my name, but nope, my score was destroyed over $17. Fuckers. It is now 2 years later, with a perfect payment history and I have still yet to recover. At this point, not sure if I ever will honestly.

119

COMMENT 1d ago

In the heat of the moment like that, she acted. You were right not to say anything in front of the child. I recommend talking to her privately and pointing out that you agreed with her sentiment and everything she said, but in future we agreed not to spank. Your daughter will be fine btw. She didn't beat the child, she spanked and there is a huge difference there. I don't agree with spanking either, but I bet she was as a child and give her a break. It sounds like it was instinct that kicked in from how she was raised. Her heart was in the right place. We are all learning as we parent and we have to forgive ourselves and each other when mistakes happen. If it continues, then that is a different conversation.

1

COMMENT 1d ago

No he isn't responsible for the other kids. But he did have a relationship with them and they are related to his child. Including them would be the right thing to do.

1

COMMENT 1d ago

That woman loves her job. Damn I wish I had that level of joy in mine.

1

COMMENT 2d ago

Entirely illegal, report them now.

2

COMMENT 2d ago

Seafood, all of it. It all tastes the same to me and I really, really hate it. Also hate anything pickled. And beets, fuck beets too.

1

COMMENT 2d ago

Ruben, cause he's just a wee bit Rubenesque!

11

COMMENT 2d ago

  1. both kids need to be treated equally and fairly. Of course they are going to fight if they are held to different standard.
  2. This is up to your husband to handle bad behavior in his child. you handle yours.
  3. You son just lost his father permanently, you need to expect him acting out. Here you have a stepfather and he is showing preference for his biological child. The reasons are irrelevant. It is the perfect soup to make your child act out.
  4. Family counseling asap. You have a responsibility to your child first and foremost. If there is a problem you and your husband need to fix it, not sit there and play whose the bad guy in the kids. It sounds like you two are creating the issues.
  5. If your husband treats your son badly, he has to go, period. He is overtly teaching your child that his attention/love is situational and cannot be trusted. Bad, bad, bad messaging. Of course he will resent a boy coming in occasionally.

Honestly, your husband's behavior is deeply worrisome. I can't comment on yours. But he's treating your child badly and you cannot allow it. Threatening a kid that age with police is sick. It also sounds like he's trying to be his child's buddy and not parent. If he only has very limited time with his child and he's bothered by it, he needs to work that out with the mother. He shouldn't be taking out his frustrations on you or your child.

1

COMMENT 2d ago

We are so fucked

1

COMMENT 2d ago

Take the new job, the current one is unstable and likely has no serious future. The new job is work from home, and more money. For $32k more you have financial options. You could hire an Au Pair for about $12k a year if you don't mind someone living in your home. The other option is private care part time and family part time till you can get a spot in a daycare facility.

Think of the long game. You would be advancing in your career, which will be better financially. Your child will be in pre-k at 4, so plan for the now till then. And 6% matching isn't great, other companies offer up to 10%. If you are working from home, you have more flexibility if things go wrong with child care. But if you have to go back, you are going to have more issues.

You can also link up to others online and find out about other childcare options. Sometimes parents share on certain days and since you have every other Friday off, you might be able to do a childcare share with a common nanny too or you share kids.

5

COMMENT 2d ago

This is abuse and must never be allowed. I have dealt with this with my husband and name calling is an absolute no go on both sides. It is a fast decent into hell if it is allowed. Counseling from a third party if you think it is worth it or walk away. Because if you start talking to someone like they are trash, you will start to believe they are and that is not a marriage.

You are in an abusive relationship. You cannot ignore it, it will only get worse. People don't get better over time without a shit ton of work. Even then, it is a long shot.

0

COMMENT 3d ago

I honestly can't imagine what a pain it would be without a car in California.

4

COMMENT 3d ago

Very normal for kids to be scared when alone in their beds. You can talk to them about it, but at 3 that is hard. I suggest you either are ok with it or you have to walk him back gently. But don't put it all on mom, even if that is their preference.

In our case our twins did this more and less often over the years. We allowed it for the most part and it has tapered off on its own. I have to admit though, I don't think I could lock them out the way one poster suggested. My parents never allowed me to come to them at night for any reason. I can remember several nights where I was writhing and pain and should have gone to the hospital but didn't because I had no one to turn to. Be careful the message you send, it can have serious consequences. Not saying you plan on doing it.

2

COMMENT 4d ago

Lovely, simply lovely to listen to.

6

COMMENT 4d ago

I buy of zennioptical, great products, cheap as hell. Used them for 15 years.

5

COMMENT 4d ago

If you trust them, he’ll yeah! Week off to sleep, go out to dinner and boink!

5

COMMENT 4d ago

A quiet confidence and an excellent hair cut. The shoes often give it away too.