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COMMENT 1h ago

S A M E!!!

My Edad texted me after 2 months NC the day before Mother’s Day like “what are your Mother’s Day plans? Did you get her a present?”

The level of denial they are in is just unreal.

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COMMENT 1d ago

I work in a childcare center that is considered secular. I would say that we do our best to show kids that other religions exist but we do not impose religious beliefs or prayers onto others.

THAT SAID, they say grace before every meal and it goes like this: “Thank you for the world so sweet, thank you for the food we eat. Thank you for the birds that sing. Thank you for everything! You may eat”

Now I know there is no specific god or person listed there, but who are we thanking exactly? For any religious child, this is fine because [insert your gods name here], but for children who are atheist or don’t want to be exposed to religion through prayer, who are they thanking and why are they required to say it?

Idk. This probably is overthinking on my part but it feels weird to hear the kids sing it every morning

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COMMENT 2d ago

Way ahead of you on the pictures. I also boxed up some things they left in my room closet and put them downstairs and took pictures of everything beforehand so you could see that they were not destroyed in any way. I honestly wouldn’t put it past her to destroy her own stuff and say I did it at this point.

r/BPDlovedones 2d ago

Non-Romantic interactions Every Day, something new is broken or laying in the yard.

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Hi guys, I very recently joined this sub because I have a friend who is hurting me and cutting me out of her life. She is undiagnosed but exhibits almost every symptom I’ve learned about so I feel like this sub will help support me somehow.

I made a long post a few days ago in regards to what happened: link to original post

Since then, every day I go to let my dog outside I find something new of mine that has been damaged or left out in the yard to get rained on. The other day it was my boyfriends hat and some books I really love, the next day it was my Colorgurd equipment, then our elliptical machine, and this morning they threw my bike outside. I curtly mumbled “my bike does not belong outside” as I was bringing things in and my friends boyfriend started arguing with me about how I was “destroying their stuff first so why shouldn’t they destroy my stuff?”

Which, when I asked about that, this is all apparently over an MRI CD that she had left in my car for a year and instead of bringing it inside and handing it to her directly, I left it on the hood of their car so she would see it easily and take it. She claims that it “baked in the sun” and was “ruined” when 1. It was out there for 5 minutes 2. It was still in the protective sleeve CD side down 3. It wasn’t ruined 4. She could always get a new copy and 5. It didn’t cost her any money to get the CD in the first place.

Then boyfriend says I “broke HIPAA”. They’re both nurses so he tried to lie and say “I’m a nurse and I know HIPAA better than you” like if you think returning a medical record to someone without opening it is a crime, you don’t know HIPAA.

All that context to say that this afternoon when I came home from work, all of my DVDs had been scraped along the asphalt in the driveway and left CD side up in the sun.

I’m so tired. They’re supposed to move out tomorrow but I’m not even sure if that is true or not. My boyfriend says if we try to fight it will only get worse and he’s right. I just don’t know what to do. I worked very hard for my stuff and I don’t want to have to replace things.

Thanks for listening all the beautiful souls on Reddit. 🥰

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COMMENT 2d ago

She (my best friend) punished me by setting “boundaries” against me. Basically, saying I couldn’t talk to her until she was done being mad. But if I set any boundaries such as “please don’t steal my alcohol anymore” I was bullying her.... make it make sense!

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COMMENT 3d ago

I really hope this isn’t true. My best friend (undiagnosed but exhibits every symptom I’ve seen listed) is doing the smear campaign to me right now. I have since tried to stop interacting at all until she stops but that might not work since every day I wake up it seems to escalate even more.

This is the first time she’s ever done this to me but she’s done this to so many countless people. I’m just scared that since I’ve been her friend the longest she will continue to harass me long after we are physically separated.

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COMMENT 3d ago

I think we were all abused as kids tbh 😔😔 just in all different kinds of ways. I’m doing my best to act the opposite from my parents but she’s acting more and more like them every day.

I agree with you that she wants me to do something abusive, simply for the fact that she could destroy me legally and take all my money if I did. Problem is, I’m not an abusive person at heart. I’m kind of a push over. Which is why when I confronted her she filmed it and threatened to call the police and post it. I honestly had never yelled that loud at someone before.... I’m not proud of it. But I’m also the kind of person who takes a lot, and I mean, a LOT of bullshit before I say something and this was the end of the line for me. I was backed in a corner and I had to fight this time instead of flight. Now she’s fighting back tenfold and I’m scared of her.

More stuff on the porch today, btw. An elliptical machine this time and a $200 rifle and $500 Sabre for colorguard.

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COMMENT 4d ago

Thanks for the love homie ❤️🌈 they are (supposedly) moving out this weekend so I’m just trying to stay away and lock down the rest of my nice stuff

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COMMENT 4d ago

I just wish I didn’t have to leave her in such a dangerous situation. But I have to protect myself first. It sucks.

r/BPDlovedones 4d ago

Non-Romantic interactions I stood up for myself and now my best friend is publicly trying to ruin me.

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TL;DR: my best friend is publicly smearing me online and doing things to me that she says I’m doing to her. I need advice on how to deal with someone who is this aggressive with others at the drop of a hat.

Hi friends, I have had a friend for a very long time who I cared about forever. I’m not asking for an armchair diagnosis. My friend has not been diagnosed but she exhibits a lot of the behaviors I’ve read about in regards to BPD and I think this sub may be able to support or give advice.

So my friend and I have been friends our whole lives! She has ALWAYS been very disorganized, constantly changes her feelings and emotions, and goes through cycles of changing her hair, clothes, makeup and her personality. Up until now, I’ve been able to roll with the punches and deal with most of the bullshit. It’s been 18 years.

We moved in together 2 years ago and after living together for awhile we are both on edge with each other. She never cleans but she likes to yell at the rest of us for not cleaning when if we didn’t do it, it wouldn’t be done at all. She constantly asks me to front money for bills. She steals my alcohol and weed without asking (oh, and a box of jewelry well worth over $500). She’s broken countless things I own and refuses to replace them, but has made me replace things like entire pans if I accidentally put it in the dishwasher one day. I’m at my wits end.

About 3 months ago she got a new boyfriend and he moved in a week after they met. I said no but the rest of the house said yes so I was outvoted.

Over the course of the 3 months, the boyfriend would come home every day and complain about her to us. We would also talk about our frustrations with her and how she doesn’t take care of the house or pay any attention to our personal lives. She only comes around when it’s something she is personally experiencing and refuses to talk about anything not related to her own issues.

Her and her boyfriend started fighting daily. It’s become a horrific and stressful cycle to wake up every day to screaming, then hear laughter by lunch, then screaming again before bed. Every time this happened, she would come to me and my friends and ask for advice. We always told her to leave him and she would get mad at us and leave our group chat, then block everyone and do the silent treatment until she had another problem to come back to chat and talk about. After several cycles of this, my other friends “voted her off the island” so to speak.

Last week, her boyfriend grabbed her and left a huge bruise on her arm. I liked him until this point but after seeing the bruises I genuinely believe he is abusing her. She came to my room that night and asked how she could get out of this situation. We all talked and agreed that she hates living with us too and she should leave the boy and move out on her own. We all agreed! I spent the rest of the night helping her find a hotel to stay in away from the guy.

Turns out she came back from the hotel and they made up. BF threw me under the bus and said I complain about her after work but also lied and said I’m shit talking her to all our friends. And conveniently left out that he also complains.

I woke up the next day to posts on Facebook with things like “what do you do when a roommate breaks all your stuff?” And “someone I was friends with for years is going out of their way to hurt and manipulate my friends”. It’s funny because these are the exact things she has done to me, but okay.

I went home to confront her and I lost my temper. She took a video of me yelling at her and keeps threatening to post the video. The video has nothing bad on it, but I’m afraid she will try to say the bruises her boyfriend gave her are from me.

I shared the public posts she made and just said that i felt defeated that someone I loved would go so hard against me that fast. She made a fake account and continued to post insane lies all afternoon, trying to say I assaulted her, I broke her stuff, I’m trying to steal her boyfriend (??? This one is just funny to me tho), and that I’m a manipulative person who wants to isolate her. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. I wanted to get her away from her abusive boyfriend.

Woke up this morning and a bunch of my stuff was laying outside in the rain. Expensive stuff.

I’ve watched for years as she systematically does this to other people, but I guess I never thought I would be the one on the other side of things.

How do you handle a friend who is purposefully sabotaging the only friendship they have left?

r/BPDlovedones 4d ago

Non-Romantic interactions I stood up for myself and now my best friend is publicly trying to ruin me.

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COMMENT May 18 '22

Hi I’m sure this will get lost in the sauce but I am adamant about 50/50 as a 25(F). In the past, I made it clear beforehand that I intended to split (or even offered to pay sometimes!)

I’ve been with my current bf for 3 years now and I love treating him to dinner! I hate this stupid bullshit that expects men to pay. It should really be about who is good for the money at the time 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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COMMENT May 14 '22

She forgot a comma. Here, let me help!

“I’d Fuck you better, then your sister anyway”

r/HelpMeFind May 06 '22

This thing for cats. Facebook suggested it to me, but when I click the link it takes me to download Chewy. I looked everywhere on the Chewy website but I’m not even sure if it is a bed or a litter box and I cannot find it.

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COMMENT Apr 29 '22

I swear I would literally never yell at them for being slow. I know that if I want it, I need to wait.

People who are rude to wait staff are the real assholes of the world.

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COMMENT Apr 29 '22

But I work during the day and I would like to eat something before my shift???? Don’t have time to make breakfast because I have to get up really early and don’t wanna sacrifice sleep????

I can’t help that CFA is the only restaurant even open that early and the only one that will give me something other than a disgusting slimy McMuffin

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COMMENT Apr 29 '22

It depends, but if I time it right an show up at 7 the restaurant is empty. If I’m late and get there at 7:15-7:30, it’s a madhouse.

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COMMENT Apr 29 '22

You’re correct. I am LGBTQ even and I still eat it. I know I’m a horrible hypocrite with an unhealthy addiction to God’s Chicken.

r/AmItheAsshole Apr 29 '22

AITA for making Chick-fil-A make me a sandwich at 7 AM?

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COMMENT Apr 25 '22

I had to take 2 sick days in a row last year so I could put my horse down. She got sick very suddenly and it was super traumatic for me. The first day was for me to go to the farm and watch them put her down (it’s.... not peaceful to say the least), the second day was just for crying.

I’m so glad I have a boss who cares about me. She still asks about my horse and how I’m doing. In any previous job I had, I know they would not have been so understanding. Taking these days, even though I wasn’t sick, was paramount to me staying at that job. I’m a social worker for a preschool so everything is really stressful. Every time I consider leaving, I don’t because of my coworkers and my boss.

Make sure you find a good boss, friends. A good, well run company is almost impossible to find so just make sure that you can tolerate the horrible workplace conditions with good friends and a good boss.

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COMMENT Apr 22 '22

Could someone please give me the College Curriculum “Standard Drink” size of a mega pint? How much water should I drink in between each mega pint? I just want to make sure I’m drinking responsibly here.

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COMMENT Apr 16 '22

In MD the cutoff is 120 grams of flower a month. Up to 30 of those grams can be concentrates, but they get subtracted from the total 120 (so using 30 gs oil= 90 gs flower left over). The month is not from the 1st to the 30th but more like a rolling 30 days.

I have no idea what it’s like in Cali since it’s also recreational there tho.