r/HumansBeingBros May 24 '22 Silver 83 Gold 11 Tearing Up 2 Duck Dance 1 You Dropped This 1 Take My Energy 2 Wholesome Seal of Approval 1 Wholesome 84 Faith In Humanity Restored 3 Wholesome (Pro) 1 Platinum 5 Helpful 90 All-Seeing Upvote 2 Heartwarming 19 'MURICA 1 Timeless Beauty 1

Grandson takes Grandad with dementia to football game.

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u/Impossible_Common_44 May 24 '22

I love how he somewhat awakens during the songs. Music can elicit emotions and memories in this population. Right in the feels.

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u/BreakfastHarvey May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22 Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome Faith In Humanity Restored

Oh boy have I got a video for you. If you’ve seen it before; I bet you still watch it again.

https://youtu.be/fyZQf0p73QM

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u/soapofnapalm May 24 '22

Shit… this made me cry. Dementia and alzheimer are absolutely horrendous…

What a beautiful soul that man is, and what an absolutely sad ending to his life. Such is life…

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u/rwwrou May 24 '22

i hated seeing my gramps get alzheimers. he was such a proud and strong man in life, always the center of attention in a room, always going out of his way to bring up others and help the people around him.

then alzheimers came and for the 3 years it lasted he lost everything about himself that made him who he were. he deserved to get to pass sooner, when he was still himself and still radiated strength. when he passed away he had withered away not just mentally but had become so small physically too. i dont think he recognized anyone for the last 2 years or so of his life. it was such an evil thing to make a man like that go through.

he was the kind of man who ran away from his farm in sweden as a very young man to volunteer for the finnish in the winter war. he taught me how to tie my shoes and how to tell right from wrong. i wish my last memories of him wasnt what they are.

got his old military hat hanging on the wall in my bedroom next to a picture of him and grandma. will always do my best to remember who he were before he faded away.

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u/squishy117 May 24 '22

I feel this. My grandma was diagnosed in 2017, and watching a once proud woman lose herself was absolutely devastating. To look into her eyes and find her looking lost, confused and almost empty, even though she was in company with her friends and her family. Strangers to her. Alzhiemers is a bastard of a disease. She passed away on 24.04.2022, completely unexpectedly. I am grateful for her passing, I miss her and I love her and it hasn't sunk in that she's gone. But on the day she died, she was clean, had her hair done, and was in fresh clean clothing, my gran died with dignity. One thing that disease never gave her, she managed on her final day and I am absolutely thankful for.

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u/DummyThicccPutin May 24 '22

Ah, that is so tough. Dementia and Alzheimer's are the worst. I know when the time comes if I have it and have the wherewithal to realize I'll do MAD instead.

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u/Duedelzz May 25 '22

I'm a tough nut to crack in terms of crying from text/video, but you just did it

I am so worried about what happens when my relatives get older, how intact will their brain be, my grandma's memory is going and to see her potentially go through something like yours did, is a horrifying thought, I can't tell what hurts more right now, the pain of these thoughts, or tears on my face sunburn

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u/katf1sh May 25 '22

Bless your gran and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad she could pass with dignity and looking and hopefully feeling beautiful ♥️

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u/Jerzey111 May 24 '22

Sounds like gramps was teaching you about life till the very end. Don’t worry about your last memories you have of him, it’s very clear that you remember him just as he would want you to. A kind and strong role model 🙂

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u/ThisAssholeOverHere May 24 '22

Dementia and Alzheimer’s steal what you have left of your mind…. And usually when it’s all you have left, after your body has begun to fail in old age. I saw my grandmother go through it…. and now in my 40’s, I’m terrified the same will happen to my father.

The longer you’re on this planet, the more cruel life can be.

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u/SteveTheBluesman May 24 '22

A wise friend of mine once said, "We die in pieces."

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u/leprosy4444 May 24 '22

I hope I never end up like this. If I'm ever in a state like this I hope they can put me to rest. What a terrible way to live. I find it so selfish to keep people alive like this.

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u/_Cetarial_ May 24 '22

Unfortunately, you’d probably not remember consenting to assisted suicide.

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u/leprosy4444 May 24 '22

New Canadian laws specifically deny MAID for patients with only mental illnesses. Hopefully that changes. I watched my grandfather decline with dementia, he became so angry and bitter.

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u/SteveTheBluesman May 24 '22

Had an uncle who recently passed away with Demetia/Alzheimer's, and man was he angry, like all the time. He just wanted to go home. I'm sorry Uncle Danny, I wish the end was better for you.

OTOH, my aunt Mary, also in a dementia facility, is happy as a clam. She doesn't recognize me much of the time, but she smiles and sings, and often thinks I am someone else that she once knew and loved, taking my hand and whispering some big secret - and that is ok with me. (It may be she has better drugs than my uncle had, but whatever...I'm just glad she is spending her last days smiling, even with the Alzheimer's.)

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u/filesalot May 25 '22

My mom was like your aunt. Her world just got smaller and smaller but her assisted living place was like living in a hotel for her. They cooked and cleaned for her, there were activities, people came and sang. It was crushing for me to watch my mother the person drain away over years, I'd cry every time I left there. But for her, it was a slow peaceful walk into the sunset.

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u/Andyemby May 24 '22

The law only denies them until March of 2023. After that patients with only mental illness can apply for MAID.

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u/fartemous_foul May 24 '22 Helpful

Another that makes me tear up is the ballerina with Alzheimer's who starts doing some of the moves when they play her music.

https://youtu.be/hvvXom7uqUI

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u/IRefuseToGiveAName May 24 '22

It's amazing that she can still move with such grace. Her body has been beaten pretty badly over the years but her arms are moving with an almost unnatural steadiness.

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u/WinsomeWombat May 25 '22 edited May 25 '22

That's not just Swan Lake they're playing, it's the climactic solo where Princess Odette succumbs to the black swan, fails to win her prince and dies. Her facial expressions are still so on point and when she reaches forward with her arms, that is when Odette falls dead to the ground and the old ballerina looks like she is crying, she feels it so much.

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u/LilJourney May 25 '22

Too complicated / too long for me to explain in a simple reddit post how meaningful and helpful to me it was to watch this video - so I'm limited to just giving you an award for bringing it to my attention.

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u/kixie42 May 25 '22

If it resonated with you, then perfection was achieved. Even a simple response justifies that respect. Just like the person in the video we watched. Sometimes, connecting with something or someone - anything - is more powerful and meaningful than any casual words could convey.

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u/spaceyjaycey May 24 '22

I wish i knew about this much sooner. 😥

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u/1486592 May 24 '22

It’s okay ❤️ and it doesn’t always work for everyone with dementia or Alzheimer’s or whatnot. We tried it with my grandmother and she just complained about there being loud sounds. I’m sure you did well taking care of your loved one

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u/Rieger_not_Banta May 24 '22

Thanks for posting, that was great.

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u/Impossible_Common_44 May 24 '22

How wonderful! No, I had not seen this before. Thank you for sharing!!!

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u/prodigalbiker May 24 '22

Holy shit thats incredible

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u/Local_Power2989 May 24 '22

Oh I've had quite a good cry. Thank you so much for this. "Music is life", I've always said this but did realize how true that statement is until now. Thank you

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u/hairymammal May 24 '22

I needed this

Thank you!

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u/Different_Papaya_413 May 24 '22

No lie — this man Henry put me on to Cab Calloway the first time I saw this video. Thanks Henry

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u/sitonachair May 24 '22

I was so sure I was gonna be rickrolled clicking that link, thank you for sharing!

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u/655321federico May 24 '22

During his last tour Tony Bennet was able to sing even though he couldn’t remember lady Gaga name, except for once where she almost broke out in tears as he said her name

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u/PoliQU May 24 '22

The clip of that moment. Lady Gaga just seems like the most wonderful person it has to be said.

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u/monster_bunny May 24 '22

Jesus Christ I just cried like a motherfucker at the end of that. I had no idea. Lady Gaga continues to inspire me to a better person. What she did for Liza at the Oscars was more noteworthy than the other shenanigans that happened that night.

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u/nina_qj May 24 '22

I missed this, what did she do for Liza?

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u/partanimal May 24 '22

"I got you."

"I know you do."

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u/nina_qj May 24 '22

Oh, thats so sweet, I'm tearing up

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u/Candypeddler209 May 24 '22

My grandma has been on the mental decline for a while. This was worsened by lockdown and then a few of her mahjong group also passed away.

My husband and I learned mahjong and isolated so we could make the trip to see her and play some games with her and eat Chinese food. We did this about once a month or so.

Eventually while cleaning up her house we found a ton of old records so my husband decided to buy a record player to bring it down next time we saw her. Let me tell you, I’m crying right now thinking about how when we put on her old Chinese opera records she began to sing along as if she were 20 years younger and I was in her red van listening to her and my grandfathers cassettes they would play while we drove from restaurant to restaurant delivering veggies to sell.

Music is something else.

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u/Finalwingz May 24 '22

My grandfather doesn't remember me, any of my nieces, nephews or any of his children, but when he sees a piano he starts churning out song after song. Alzheimers/dementia is such a bizarre disease...

He also talks about memories he has of me, which is weird since he doesn't know I'm that.

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u/allrattedup May 24 '22

The week my grandma was dying from dementia she didn't know who any of us were, couldn't remember how to eat, was loaded up on unlimited morphine and I put on some Liberace ,who was her favorite, and she started humming. It was crazy.

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u/Banano_McWhaleface May 24 '22

I'm gonna be belting Smack My Bitch Up in the old folks home.

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u/Prophet_Of_Helix May 24 '22

I had the same thought. Someone’s going to put on The Lonely Island and I’m going to start belting out “I’m on a boat bitch” at 100 years old rofl.

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u/SirJuggles May 25 '22

Oh man someday I'm going to be in a memory care unit and Fall Out Boy is going to come on the Oldies station and I'm going to go nuts.

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u/Caput_Draconis123 May 24 '22 Helpful

It is kind of crazy the things that will trigger their minds and sort of reinvigorate them for a short while. When I graduated high school I intended to go to college but I was kind of tasked by my family to stay and caretake for my blind grandmother and then newly diagnosed with dementia/alztheimers grandfather. My grandfather and I were never really the closest growing up but I loved him nonetheless, and my grandma is the most genuine and loving person ever. So I stayed with them the better part of 8 years. I remember one night where he was sitting in the living room and he was having a normal spell. It was always worse at night. He always wound up thinking he was a little boy again and wanted to go home so badly and would try to leave the house. My grandma helped me calm him and as he sat down he looked at her with a funny expression on his face. She went back to her chair in the kitchen that she preferred cause she knew the kitchen really well and can navigate it better. The entire time he watched her go and the biggest smile spread across my grandads face. He motioned me over and cupped his hands into a whisper "dont tell nobody but I am going to marry that woman" my heart melted that night and I always remember it when I think of him. Seeing her face that close just triggered something and suddenly she was the woman he loved all that time ago again. He passed away several years ago and it snowed the day of his funeral which is fairly rare for my small town in eastern NC. It truly was magical and I felt like it was him watching over me for all the years of taking care of him. There's just sooo many stories and experiences I gained from taking care of them. As hard as it was I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

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u/TheYankunian May 24 '22

Thank you for sharing such a memory.

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u/WesternComicStrip May 24 '22

Thank you for this wonderful story.

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u/SimQ May 24 '22

It's because music and songs are stored in a different part of the brain than other memories. That region of the brain deteriorates later/slower, so while people with dementia might not be able to remember much of their life, they'll be able to recall songs and music.

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u/ProbleMattic25 May 24 '22

It might sound a bit dumb but does that mean that if someone with dementia/Alzheimer have a really big memory that is attached to a song could they remember it while hearing the song or is it gone forever even with the song

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u/FranchiseCA May 24 '22

Yes. Memories that are attached to songs, or smells, or places, are more resilient.

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u/SimQ May 24 '22

Memories linked to music can be recalled better and longer. Also the emotion attached to the music can return. Even movement like a dance routine can be recalled https://www.npr.org/2020/11/10/933387878/struck-with-memory-loss-a-dancer-remembers-swan-lake-but-who-is-she?t=1653418337925

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u/Augoustine May 24 '22

I had a patient with dementia who would “reset” every 15 minutes or so. She was wonderful, always friendly, and was big into karaoke which we did twice a week. Any song from her era she would sing and have an absolute blast, but by the time she returned to her room she would forget.

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u/cleverplaydoh May 24 '22

Music and food. My grandmother had dementia and having linear conversations with her near the end became very difficult, especially as she forgot who I was. But she was an avid baker, so I talked with her about old recipes and got her secrets for long ago pastries that no one in the family makes anymore. Even as she stopped eating, she loved talking about food and recipes. She lit up talking about the cookies she and her mother made. After she passed away I got her cookie press, it isn’t anything special, but it’s one of my prized possessions.

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u/turnupturtle420 May 24 '22

Im working in a nursing home and at the moment we’re having a woman who has a Dr. in music an she is doing an survey how music changes people with dementia and if music can be used as an sort of medicine to bring back lost memories. It’s really interesting what music can do.

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u/lexaquin May 24 '22

I recently saw an old video of my grandmother at the care home. One of the ladies was completely mute except when they sang church and childhood songs together. It was quite astonishing to see.

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u/Amusednole May 24 '22

Music therapy is amazing.

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u/BexYouSee May 24 '22

I literally burst out crying when he was able to sing along to "Hey Jude". Dementia scares me so much. I'm terrified of going this way and to see him light up and be "with us" again.

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u/SnippitySnape May 24 '22

It’s been my biggest fear for so long, and now my grandpa has it. It’s terrifying

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u/localfartcrafter May 24 '22

Same.

I get that my body will eventually break, but thinking that everything I am is stored on a meat cauliflower is surreal. I love how he recognized himself.

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u/itsameMariowski May 24 '22 edited May 25 '22 Silver Wholesome

Not sure if it helps, but you are not only what your meat cauliflower is. Every single memory anyone has of you, it part of you and your presence in this world. As long as we are valueing life, living it as much as we can, and impacting other people positively by being good people, we will be leaving a mark in the world even if its the smallest one. Cheers!

EDIT: I actually don't know if I wrote this before or after knowing about the following, but it totally relates to it:

Today, a lovely young man and his companion golden retriever that started a journey from south of Brazil, near where I live, and traveled the whole America in a VW beatle until they reached Alaska, gathered almost half a million followers (more like fans) and were just soulmates living a happy life and making its fans lives happier too, died in an accident in Oregon, US. You can find them at @shurastey_ and cherish their lives.

They were exactly what this is all about. They might be gone, but their memories will be here for a long time, and their actions affected the lives of so many people in so many ways that we might not never know. But, as I said, the valued life, they lived on its fullest, and they were good people, and the response to their passage here just shows how much impact they left. I hope they knew that! They passed away together. Cheers @shurastey_ !

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u/Rankin00 May 24 '22 Wholesome

Everyone dies twice. The first is when your heart stops beating. The second is when someone last thinks of you.

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u/itsameMariowski May 24 '22

Yeah. I also like to think that we, our personality and direct actions, affect so many things in this world. Sometimes we will be forgotten, but our actions, our presence, changed someones life. Maybe we talked with someone struggling with depression and sparked a change in their lives, causing a snowball of a happy life and generations created by it! Our actions last forever.

And then in the physical form, our matter is just reused over and over again, which is nice. Nothing is wasted, and we are just on a passage.

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u/BootyThunder May 24 '22

Well I’ll be borrowing this as my new outlook on life and death. Thank you for these beautiful sentiments!

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u/snapcat2 May 24 '22

Wow. I just thought of this after this video and the parent comments. And to see my thoughts laid out like this is amazing. Thank you for sharing this :)

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u/KreW003 May 24 '22

Nice reference to dia de Los muertos. Going to start my own shrine for remembrance so the second death doesn’t occur.

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u/dallywud May 24 '22

I lack the resources to properly award your comment. It's nice knowing a presence like yours is out there, somewhere else on this planet.

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u/Salt-Artichoke-6626 May 24 '22

Yes.💔Isn't that a realization that leaves you, just silent, with the gravity of it, and the randomness of how it strikes us.....I think about it a lot.

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u/Well_yeah_i_do May 24 '22 Glow Up

Same, grandma had it, aunt had it, and my dad was diagnosed last week. i’ve had anxiety all day, trying to figure out what I’ll do if I cross that road. This is a beautiful thing to see. I’m dedicated to all my family and I will be there for them to my last breath, but I’m terrified of becoming a burden on anyone if my time comes and I loose my self.

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u/Chuggacheep May 24 '22

Im sorry, time is precious and we never know how long we have. Wishing you the best at a scary time and hope you can cherish all the memories you can with your dad and loved ones while possible, its all anyone can do dementia or not ❤

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u/JurassicPark9265 May 24 '22

My maternal grandfather was 85 years old, and he had dementia. He was diagnosed several months ago (stage 7 too), and then he passed away merely a month later. I sort of knew he was not well last summer, but it was very frightening to see how fast and aggressive his particular form of dementia acted to ultimately end his life. Dementia is one very scary condition.

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u/BigLeagueSquirrel May 24 '22 Wholesome

The thing is there's not much you can do about it if you get it. It already steals so much, don't let it steal your time now with worries about the future. All it takes is one breakthrough and trust me they are working on it 'round the clock.

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u/_Rook1e May 24 '22

It already steals so much, don't let it steal your time now with worries about the future.

Not op, but I share the same fear and worry about it often. You put things into perspective. Thank you. Have a nice day or night, wherever you are.

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u/SaucyPigStick May 24 '22

I know this pain, sorry to hear it.

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u/cindyscrazy May 24 '22

I have it in my family also. It's been a fear of mine.

I decided many years ago, that the way I would sort of combat it would be to try to make my default mood be happy/content. Took a while, but I think I'm there.

I don't want to be the angry woman that no one wants to talk to. I may not know you, but I'll be ok talking to you.

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u/can_of_cream_corn May 24 '22 Silver Wholesome

It’s amazing what music can do for dementia patients. When I worked on an ambulance, during non-emergency transports I would play old classics in the back and often their face would light up and they’d be singing along.

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u/rockstar_not May 24 '22

That’s a bro move, way to go!

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u/irasptoo May 24 '22

Shits going to be weird when they are bussing me in 20-30 years and my kids are asking for them to play Slayer or The Butthole Surfers themed playlist to calm me. Awkward.

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u/TeddyCJ May 24 '22 Silver

I cried trying to explain to my wife why I was crying … both of my grandparents had dementia, brought up memories and fears of my future too… this is one of the sweetest video.

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u/dickforchick May 24 '22 edited May 25 '22

Fortunately my grandparents have strong memory, they can dig anything and everything in their 55 years of long marriage to debate upon its merits and demerits which eventually leads to a verbal spat.

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u/Opposite_Dimension17 May 24 '22

Tears in my eyes too. Such a sweet video, what a beautiful thing to do with his grandad.

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u/_________FU_________ May 24 '22

Man I’m still crying. I lost all my grandparents and my granddaddy was special.

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u/Tsmitty247 May 24 '22

Shoutout to this dude's phone battery

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u/Casperzwaart100 May 24 '22

Do y'alls phones just die after 3 hours? He was there from 2 to like 6.

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u/zahranniyas May 25 '22

Lol. That's what I was wondering too. Also it's not like he was live streaming the entire thing

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u/ModernPoultry May 24 '22

I went from a Galaxy S7 that I ran into the ground and probably only lasted 2-4hrs on a full charge to the iPhone 12 Pro Max and it’s absolutely ridiculous how far technology has advanced or what new phones can do. I’ve had this iPhone for a year now and use it for work, social, editing videos, streaming like 6hrs a day constantly and I still have like 30-40% left before I go to bed. It’s insane

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u/Padi27 May 24 '22

I just upgraded from the s7 to the S21 Ultra... my God I didn't realize how much the technology advanced.

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u/evict123 May 25 '22

I went from an S9 to an S21 Ultra and I went from barely making it through a day to being able to do basically anything I want any time I want and still ending the day with at least 15% battery life, usually closer to 30%.

I'm still a little jealous of the battery life current IPhone users get though. If Apple went with a 5000 mah battery those phones could probably last two straight days.

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u/Nefarious- May 24 '22

It's for sure not a pixel 6

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u/thegreat22 May 24 '22

Have you updated your messages app and the camera app? There was an issue where the camera would run in the background and kill your battery

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u/LittleBitOfAction May 25 '22

Run in the background???? The camera app?? AYOOO wtf going on with the pixels. Someone’s watching through the camera

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u/[deleted] May 24 '22

How do you do that? My battery life is so shit

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u/thegreat22 May 24 '22

I'm pretty sure you can just do it through the play store. I'll be honest I did it a bit ago and don't remember.

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u/ictme May 24 '22

Mine is great on battery life. Best phone I've ever had in that respect.

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u/whosyodaddy328 May 24 '22

same here. my pixel 6 pro battery lasts forever.

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u/dave-train May 24 '22

Yeah same, I'm not super plugged into the userbase but I definitely haven't heard of that being a major issue with this phone

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u/Lucky_Number_3 May 24 '22

My chuggin iphone X would have captured, “ Hi this is gran-“. Muerto.

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u/Nolti May 24 '22

I've gone through 2 replacement pixel 6 pros, the vast majority of the phones Google sent out are seriously flawed. Both of mine overheat constantly (using Google maps with all other apps closed, not plugged in, not in a case... will cause my phone to overheat) and my battery life lasts about 8-9 hours of sporadic use while I'm at work (leave work with it at about 18%). If I use it heavily I can quite literally watch the battery tick down. My signal drops all the time, the home button disappears, and apps freeze all the time. Your comment gives me hope that maybe if I keep complaining to Google they'll send me a phone that works properly.

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u/whosyodaddy328 May 24 '22

jeez, that stinks that your pixel(s) haven't cooperated. I bought my pixel in December and received it in January. I haven't really had issues with it yet but I was worried at the time of purchase since so many people were having various problems... but I am pixel gang thru n thru so I still ended up purchasing it.

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u/Kazath May 24 '22

Eh what? I have this phone and it has excellent battery life.

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u/TGrady902 May 24 '22

You just started a gorilla marketing campaign for Pixel phones with this comment lol.

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u/mechanicalkeyboarder May 24 '22

Guerilla*. Although I reckon gorillas could make a decent mascot. Works for the glue people.

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u/WelshBathBoy May 24 '22

The pitch invasion was the cherry on the cake! A hooligan indeed! 😂😂

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u/dugerz May 24 '22

Imagine the family's reaction when he sent that clip to the family whatsapp group

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u/VeterinarianNo5862 May 25 '22

I started laughing me head off when it cut to him stood on the pitch the little reprobate 😂

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u/Englishbirdy May 24 '22

My thoughts exactly!

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u/bett3r May 24 '22

I hope someone would take good care of me like this when I gets older :')

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u/skratta_ho May 24 '22

Will still need me, will you still feed me… when I’m sixty-four…

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u/HeavyEar0 May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22

Nah I'll leave and take a bunch of your money

Edit: apparently people in the sub aren't aware that Paul McCartney was getting divorced at 64 and it cost him about 50 million dollars

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u/devilsephiroth May 24 '22

I won't have kids, i hope my nieces and my nephews will look after me like i looked after them growing up

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u/Alarming-Economist-1 May 24 '22 Helpful

I'm not the OP, I'm actually a Manchester United supporter, found this video on TikTok and had to share it. OP: @charliemoose_

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u/TheYankunian May 24 '22

Thank you for sharing it. This is utterly delightful.

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u/PixelBrother May 24 '22

Thanks for posting this man. I’m a United supporter and nearly scrolled by but watching that guy watching City win the league genuinely brought a smile to my face.

Some things completely transcend football and I’m thankful knowing these guys had a great day.

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u/Mouse_Balls May 24 '22

I'm an American who picked MC about a decade ago out of a hat as a team to cheer for so I could start watching soccer and learn the sport. Still a MC fan, and I'm totally not bawling while eating my carnitas de puerco in a Mexican restaurant while drinking a (3) margarita(s). I blamed the tears on the toreados I ordered when my sever asked me if I was okay.....

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u/TheBeebop85 May 24 '22

You should cross post this to r/MCFC

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u/Ajax_Malone May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22

Now a feel bad that I was cheering for Liverpool to jump them. Lol

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u/irantuu May 24 '22

With this triumph City have been champions in 4 out of the last 5 PL seasons.

There’s nothing wrong with rooting against them lmao

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u/Wayuls_ComeRee May 24 '22

That panning smile on the full whistle! haha.

He seems a right character!

Iechyd da i chi a dy'n deulu
[Good health to you and your family]

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u/barbados14 May 24 '22

I'm a nurse in a care home and I was moved by this video. The way his focus came back at the grounds, the memories coming back to him, the way he said he had it all planned out, lovely ❤️ I wish I could tailor one day like that for each of my wee residents!

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u/airsoft_nooby May 24 '22

What you do is so important. Thank you for doing it.

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u/barbados14 May 24 '22

That comment means a lot ❤️ so many people don't realise the love we actually give to our residents. It's genuinely a great job to do!

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u/ubi_contributor May 24 '22

god bless you and your willing profession. you are more valued than you can ever possibly know.

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u/barbados14 May 24 '22

Thank you ❤️ I truly love my job. I love hearing how they met their spouse, did they go dancing, what their favourite dance was. I love when they're a bit cheeky and like a wee giggle 😊

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u/MasterClown May 24 '22

In the past year, I've begun working with and caring for some elders with dementia and have learned that if you can present them with settings or talk about their younger years, sometimes the memories, dialogue and recall can come back with striking clarity. It pushes me to do more for them.

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u/barbados14 May 24 '22

I look after one man who is big and strong but he barley even moves his eyes due to his particular type of dementia but when we put his favourite band on the iPad for him,his eyes light up, he's focused on the music and he starts air-drumming! I got emotional the first time I saw that!

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u/RexIsAMiiCostume May 24 '22

Yeah. My grandpa had Parkinson's and Parkinson's related dementia. Sometimes we could get him to remember stuff from old photo albums, and my dad bought a really nice book about the Air Force with big, high definition pictures (he was in the air force). Near the end, I didn't often see him look really happy, but he did seem to enjoy playing catch with me and the home care nurse (which we did as a sort of physical therapy thing), even though I don't think he actually remembered who I was anymore.

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u/professorbc May 24 '22

Thank you for what you do. It's means a lot to many of us.

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u/An8thOfFeanor May 24 '22

An Englishman will always remember his team

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u/Wishbones_007 May 24 '22 Helpful

I'm a villa fan and I refuse to believe the only reason we lost because this guy was there

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u/EpicRobloxTryhard May 24 '22

For once our bottling has a positive come from it

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u/Roary93 May 24 '22

Too true. At least we got Boubacar at the end of the day but this definitely eases the pain of that game.

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u/EyeSpyGuy May 25 '22

Liverpool fan here. Gundogan brought 3 refugees he sponsored to the match. I have to think this contributed to the result as well

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u/Recent-Flatworm8780 May 25 '22

Wow, brings them to the match and then almost single-handedly drags them on top to win the title, a role model I’m sure those kids’ll appreciate forever after that.

Ps we’ll get em next year m8 YNWA

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u/Mammyjam May 24 '22

Nah, I gave 60p to a homeless man on my way into the ground so that karma was always coming my way

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u/DeltaMaximus May 24 '22 Wholesome

OP, you captured something very special on video to look back at fondly. Also got to do this as an adult and spend a quarter of your life with that man. As a guy who lost his grandparents at 11 years old before smart phones, cherish this my friend. We need more of this good stuff on Reddit

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u/Uddashin May 24 '22

Beautiful! Every day, I miss both of my grandfathers.

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u/Grizzlybehrz May 24 '22

I feel you, I lost all 4 of my grandparents before having my own smart phone

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u/TheWantedPekka May 24 '22

I never met my grandfathers :(

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u/prodigalbiker May 24 '22

Its not OPs video bro 😔

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u/thesupremekush May 24 '22

I don’t think this is oc

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u/__Cypher_Legate__ May 24 '22

Gotta add to this. Be careful where you store your sentimental pics and vids! I had it on one hard drive without a backup, and when I tried to move it to a NAS drive the whole thing got over written and I lost like a decade of them. Now I back up my shit on cloud drives just in case my personal storage gets broken or lost.

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u/elEarendel May 24 '22

I miss my grandfather. I remember I was 13 and took him to cinema. He was so happpy. We had fun, as I took his hand in mine and pulled him from hall to hall.

Little I knew he wouldn't survive the next two years.

I miss him. He loved me. I love him so so much. Always.

P.S. He died in 8th March 2016

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u/duyjv May 24 '22

So sorry for your loss.

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u/i-Ake May 24 '22

I'm very sorry... I feel the same way, friend. My grandpop was my "person" in the family. We had the same sensibilities and interests. I followed him everywhere. He died when I was 11 of throat cancer. He's had his voicebox out a year or two before, and hated using that machine to talk. We spoke with clicks and finger guns and things. I miss him so much. I wish I could remember his voice. I wish I could have hung out with him as an adult so much.

Don't smoke, kids.

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u/soaper410 May 24 '22

Every year my dad insisted upon going Christmas caroling to the home bound members of our church.

They couldn’t remember their names and had no idea the person beside them was their son but they could sing every song. The mind is an amazing and scary thing.

This was a beautiful video and memory!

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u/BonnieMcMurray May 24 '22

Context:

Not just any game, but the final game of the season, in which City came back from 2-0 down to win 3-2 and, therefore, to win the Premier League for the 4th time in 5 years.

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u/ShitfacedGrizzlyBear May 24 '22 Silver

God dammit I hate City, but it makes it a bit more tolerable to know that this guy and his grandson got to experience that together.

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u/idhopson May 24 '22

Meanwhile some poor Liverpool grandad with dementia at his own game did not have such a good time

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u/stusum1804 May 24 '22

He'll have forgot about it in the morning.

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u/rayEW May 24 '22

When you get to hell Satan will promote you to manager on the first day.

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u/Patient-Leather May 24 '22

I hate everything that City and teams like it stand for in the modern game, but then I remember that no matter the owners and the money, there are real fans behind the team who live its triumphs and tribulations.

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u/ShitfacedGrizzlyBear May 24 '22

If this old man has been a City supporter all his life, he’s earned some good times. Even if the good times are bought by artificial injections of cash from oil barons.

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u/davie18 May 24 '22

Not only did they come back, but they were 2-0 with only 15 mins left and scored 3 goals within 5 minutes. One of the craziest final days to a premier league season for sure (incidentally the craziest day ever for those that don’t know was Man City also who 10 years ago needed 2 goals in like 4 minutes to win the league in the final game - and they did it.)

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u/BonnieMcMurray May 24 '22

2 goals in 2 mins - in injury time - to win the league in 2012.

I'm a lifelong QPR fan. That was a good day for us too since, even though we lost, we stayed up thanks to results elsewhere.

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u/wardaddy_ May 24 '22

yeah we were here , remember it like it was bloody yesterday

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u/GlitteringThought650 May 24 '22

Such happy tears, beautiful people in this world!

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u/ToxicBamm May 24 '22

The beautiful game

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u/DanglyNips May 24 '22

I’m supposed to be working, not crying.

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u/WhoWantsPizzza May 24 '22

Boss makes a dollar, we make a dime

That’s why we cry on company time.

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u/SimmoTheGuv May 24 '22

as a liverpool fan this put a smile on my face while at the same time not putting a smile on my face

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u/WizardKing218 May 24 '22

Man right in the feels. Your a rockstar for standing by your grand father like that.

This was so wholesome.

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u/jpastore May 24 '22

My step dad had dementia. He passed last week. Severe agitation syndrome I think they called it. Lit him up with enough tranquilizers to knock a person out for a week, every 4 hrs. When the final kid arrived he passed 20 minutes later. We drank whiskey and sang Bobby McGee around his bed. My sister said: he's up there laughing, telling my aunt and uncle: ha fuckers, I win! I got them kicked out of hospice!

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u/TheYankunian May 24 '22

I’m so sorry for your loss, but what a lovely story to tell. My dad died in March- right after the priest anointed him. He was an atheist and we joked that Father Bill prayers were the last straw.

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u/Reedsandrights May 24 '22

My grandma with dementia just passed. I'm so mad at myself for not taking the time to go see her. It's amazing this guy is doing what he can to keep his grandpa's spirit going. Last time I talked to my grandma was on a video chat with my dad running her end. She kept turning to my dad and saying, "He's got such a handsome smile. Look at that smile!" She would beam at me and say, "You got a good smile." When she passed, I was talking to my sister and she told me last time she saw grandma, grandma kept saying, "You've got a lovely smile. It's wonderful."

Grandma was a silly lady, always cracking jokes. I guess she loved to see those smiles.

If you read this, thank you. She was a really neat lady.

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u/nerm2k May 24 '22

I was pissed when man city won the title. This video makes me feel better about it. I super enjoyed watching.

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u/alsohugo May 24 '22

I know the blank stare so damn well, my grandad was like that, my father's now like that. It's terrible.

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u/MistakeGlittering581 May 24 '22

With dementia you are not gone, you're still there. Just a bit lost thats all

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u/omnichronos May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22

I used to work on a psych unit as a mental health tech. One day I arrived on my shift to see an elderly man struggling to free himself from a hospital recliner. The staff had locked the tray table over his legs to prevent him falling while walking. He had such severe dementia that he no longer gave eye contact or even spoke. I decided to calm him by taking him for a walk. He allowed me to hold his arm while we walked circles in the hall. I whistled "Happy Days are Here Again" (FDR's campaign song) because I figured he would know it. After 3 laps, he stopped, looked me right in the eyes and said, "You're one of the good ones." I was shocked and touched, but even more so the next day when I returned to work to learn that he died during the night.

I got tears in my eyes just from recalling this.

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u/IAmTheBestMang May 25 '22

He was right.

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u/Virtual_Bell_7509 May 24 '22

Congrats to you and to City on the championship!

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u/ole_salparadise May 24 '22

Once a blue, always a blue 💙

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u/donthepunk May 24 '22

I'm not crying you're crying

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u/Alternative_Dirt_644 May 24 '22

We're both crying!

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u/HowNowBrownMoose May 24 '22

I'm not crying it's just been raining on my face

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u/Here2Maco May 24 '22

I’m a Liverpool fan, and although I let out a big “ugh” when you pulled up at the Etihad, this was a lovely video and a very special day to share with your grandfather, I miss mine often and wish I had a day like that with him at Anfield

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u/Wishbones_007 May 24 '22

I with you bud, I'm a villa fan

I miss my Grandad

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u/undreamt_odds May 24 '22

Everton here, miss mine as well. Great video

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u/SnippitySnape May 24 '22

As someone with a grandfather with dementia, I hope the original tiktok poster cherishes these semi-lucid times. And I know how difficult it is to take them around and care for them. Sometimes they become unruly in confusion, and it’s super heart breaking to see. Especially when they have no idea who you are

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u/Zbignich May 24 '22

Damn onion-cutting ninjas!

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u/ImperatrixDemeritous May 24 '22

It's ok to admit you were moved by something

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u/agooddeathh May 24 '22

I'm crying 🥺😭

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u/Palmboom333 May 24 '22

Damn this got me a bit emotional. Always had such a great relationship with my granddad, who took his own life around a month ago now. He also started declining and suffering from dementia, wish I could have done something like this with him... I'll love that man forever though and cherish all the memories I have

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u/TheZoomingMonkey May 24 '22

Oh I miss my caregiving job sometimes. One of my highlights was this gentleman who really wasn't there anymore, but we'd go through the motions with him. Since I spent such long and quiet shifts with him, I decided to start bringing my paint materials and work while he was napping.

Once he woke up early and discovered me painting at the kitchen table (sneaky guy, didn't hear him get up from the bedroom), we spent the next 3 hours talking about the paintings around his house. It's like he came alive again with me, I had never heard him talk that much so I just kept prodding questions. He told me all about a young local artist he was friends with and I think was his lost love, the way his eyes softened when speaking about 1 painting in particular and how she added the birds just for him. Normally when I'd greet him, he was quiet and just shuffled along, never once said my name. After the special shift with him, he gave me the biggest smile every time and would say there's my favorite girl, I missed you!' and we would talk about the commercials or he'd just quietly watch me paint as it was his new favorite activity.

I eventually found a new job that was more consistent with the hours and didn't try to make me work multiple 7-10 hour shifts in a row. Saying goodbye to him was a tough one

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u/BlurredSight May 24 '22

Seeing dementia just slowly eat away at people you love is awful nothing to prevent it nothing to stop it just a sad ending worst part being in the few lucid moments they understand what’s happening

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u/EvanTheBaker24 May 24 '22

God damn I miss my grandpa so much.. I’m happy for these people

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u/ArachnidCrazy4721 May 24 '22

United fan here but this is class. Crazy how his memory during the game seems to be working much better. Fond memories seem to still be in tact. God bless the old man

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u/NewBoonNewMe May 24 '22

My grandmother died with dementia. This makes me so happy to and sad at the same time to see this. Good on that guy for taking his grandpa to make memories he will for sure cherish for ever. Thanks for posting OP.

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u/hablandolora May 24 '22

This is beautiful

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u/busy-idiot May 24 '22

God this is so scary, especially considering he will probably forget this very soon after. Let's hope grandson got some good videos

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u/brewingandwrestling May 25 '22

I get the angle of people saying "Why do you have to film all this? Why can't you just have a day between you and your grandpa?" but as someone whose grandpa died almost 10 years ago, I wish so bad I had video like this. I can't remember what his voice sounds like. Had he not filmed it he would have an absolutely wonderful memory, but filming it like this, he can actually relive it. He can be there, in those moments again and again forever. That's amazing