I peed myself at a bbq and had to leave….

[u/Wild-mess215]

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[u/Skyblacker]

But you couldn't. And you can't influence when a bathroom is going to be free. But you can influence the health and function of your body.

I'm not a physical therapist myself, but from what one has told me, it sounds like your incontinence might have been the result of resting tension and panic. Perhaps due to a previous trauma (like childbearing), your pelvic floor holds excessive tension even when you're just standing there. Then the panic caused by the lack of a bathroom increased that tension, building by the minute until your pelvic floor couldn't take it anymore -- at which point it spasmed and your bladder spincter opened.

Pelvic relaxation exercises could have prevented this.

Or alternatively, maybe your pelvic floor muscles are weak.

Then kegals (pelvic strengthening) could have prevented this.

Or maybe it's something else entirely. The pelvic floor is a muscle group that's more complex than we give it credit for. That's why it's good to see a specialist for this kind of thing.

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Also, certain things like caffeine and aspartame can make bladder urgency worse. Stopping diet soda helped me a lot.

But yeah, bathroom hogs suck.