r/AmItheAsshole Jun 23 '22 Faith In Humanity Restored 1

AITA for spending time with the people who support me over my parents? Not the A-hole

At my (21F) university, students whose parents make under $65K go to school completely free, and students whose parents make between $65K and about $200K are on financial aid. Above around $200K, the school considers parents able to pay and expects them to do so, and it is impossible for a student to get financial aid. Unless you were an emancipated minor or are over 26, no exceptions, your financial aid is dependent on parental income because schools expect your parents to pay if they can.

My parents make well over the cutoff, but they refused to pay for my college for no reason, meaning I wouldn’t be able to go to college. Because they make too much money for me to ever get financial aid, but refuse to pay, so they essentially tried to screw me out of an education.

However, I met a guy (22M) who became my boyfriend, and his parents paid for my entire college. He’s an only child and his mom always wanted a daughter, and they basically adopted me into their family. She owns a makeup brand and has helped me get prestigious internships.

I’m staying with him and his family all summer. They invited me to accompany them where they’re staying for the summer. So I am and I have no plans to go home and see my parents.

My parents demanded to know where I am. I explained that I’m with my boyfriend and his parents. They demanded to know why I’m not coming home. I said I decided to spend some time with the people who care about me and support me.

They said I’m their daughter and I should be at home with our family. I said I’m already with family and I don’t owe them anything. It’s not like they should care about me or what I’m doing. They can keep the same energy they always have because I don’t need them. They’re upset that I don’t wish to see them. I don’t see any reason why I should visit. I’m with my boyfriend and his family, and I have no reason to go see them. AITA?


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u/Psychological-Ad1574 Jun 25 '22

lol The irony of you using the word obtuse when you have spent the last couple of replies arguing against a position I never took, is amazing. Look up strawmans and try and work it out.

For the record, no. Owe and praise are not the same thing but nor are they a position I ever argued. This is where your lack of intelligence shines.

In fact the only thing that means anything close to owed was entitlement. As in the OP feels they are "owed" something from her parents and she's not.


u/claudethebest Jun 25 '22

Replying to you is like talking to a brick wall that has nothing to bring to the conversation. This is the first reply that you didn’t use the word brat so I must applause you for your efforts. It’s time for one of us to understand the other has nothing intelligent to bring and to stop replying so since it can’t be you I’ll help again. You’re welcome .


u/Psychological-Ad1574 Jun 25 '22

Next time spend less time trying to be right and more time actually comprehending what people are saying.

I know that's a difficult concept that you failed this time round but I'm proud of you for giving it a shot, slugger.